Emergency Management Resource Guide

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Emergency Management
    ∙ Checklist
∙ Universal Procedures
∙ After Action Review

Emergency Response
   ∙ Accidents at School
   ∙ AIDS/HIV Infections
   ∙ Aircraft Emergency
   ∙ Allergic Reaction
   ∙ Assault
   ∙ Bomb Threat
   ∙ Bomb Threat-School Report
   ∙ Bus Accident
   ∙ Chemical Hazardous Spill
   ∙ Death or Serious Illness
   ∙ Earthquake
   ∙ Fire
   ∙ Gas Leak
   ∙ Hostage Situation
   ∙ Kidnapping
   ∙ Poisoning
   ∙ Rape/Sexual Abuse
   ∙ Suicide
   ∙ Threat of Harm
   ∙ Trespasser/Intruder
   ∙ Weapons
   ∙ Weather Emergency

Recovery
           ∙Emotional Recovery
              ∙Academic Recovery
              ∙Physical Recovery
             ∙ Business Recovery

   ∙ Info Sheet for Parents
   ∙ Follow Up to Emergencies
   ∙ Teachers Helping Children
   ∙ Disasters/Effects
   ∙ Age Approp CISM
   ∙ Talking Method
   ∙ Drawing Method
   ∙ Stress Concerns
   ∙ Classmate Tragedy
   ∙ Caring for Caregiver
   ∙ Students Attending Funeral
   ∙ Memorials
   ∙ Suicide
   ∙ Critical Incident Stress M

Suggestions for Students Attending a Funeral

Suggestions for Students

Attending a Visitation or a Funeral

Keep in mind:

c Expect to feel nervous when going to a funeral home or a funeral

c Go with a friend or ask a parent to accompany you

c If this is the first time you’ve seen the parents, simply offer your condolences;

just say, "I am so sorry about ’s death" (this may open a conversation)

c Point out something special to you about the deceased

c If the visitation or funeral is open casket, view the body if you want; you do
not have to

Later Involvement:

c After the funeral you may chose to continue to visit the parents; they may
continue to want to see the friends of their deceased child

c Continue to talk about their deceased child from time to time

When Visiting Grieving Parents

This information should be helpful to students when interacting with the parents of a deceased friend. Always respect the wishes of grieving parents. These suggestions must fit the parents’ needs and requests, as well as the student’s own comfort level.

First Steps:

c In the vast majority of cases the parents find it comforting to see friends of
their deceased child

c If you were a close friend of the deceased and you know the parents, then go
visit them at their home

c If you were a friend but had not met the parents (yet they know who
you are), you might still visit the home

c Other friends might wait until the visitation or funeral

c Send the parents a note or card

Communication:

c When you visit, do not worry about what to say; your presence is all that
is needed; if you wish to take a flower or anything meaningful, that’s all right too

c Don’t be afraid you will upset the parents by asking or talking about
the deceased; they are already upset

c Just sitting with the parents will most likely fill the silence

c Listen, no matter what the topic

c If you were a really close friend, the parents might be pleased for you to visit
the deceased friend’s room (if you are comfortable doing so)

c You might ask what you can do for them; ask other relatives what you might
do to help

c Do not try to take away the grieving parent’s pain

c Talk about the deceased person (grieving people often like telling stories
about the deceased, "do you remember the time...")

c Offer suggestions only when advice is asked